The Meeting of Two originated with Recovering Couples Anonymous.
This version is one I developed from that which avoids the 12-Step terminology used in the original.
The basic idea behind this techniques is that most people in a relationship have a balanced view of problems -- they accept that while the other person's actions, choices, or words may be the focal point of the immediate problem, there is likely more going on than just that. They are aware of chance, their own part in things, and possible influences or legitimate factors influencing the other person.
Typically these never get expressed because the person who has "done the deed" feels instantly attacked and jumps to the defensive, interrupting the other person almost immediately.
This leads to defensiveness on both sides, and a hardening of positions -- and frequently to an argument that slides into personal attacks that neither party feels good about afterward.
Such an outcome usually also means that the original issue never gets resolved in any meaningful way.
Here is how a Meeting of Two works:
Remember that the goal you share is that the relationship benefits from what you are doing. When a relationship problem happens, it is best resolved by BOTH of you working TOGETHER on the common goal of making this better. Try to avoid seeing this as only one person's responsibility to fix.
Please use the links below to my articles on determining the other person's real intention, on form and meaning, and on personal realities to help you with this.
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