Relationships should provide both partners with a sense of happiness and fulfillment, but can often end up in fighting and hurt feelings. I've had great success helping couples work through their problems and make decisions about what to do next. In counseling I've also helped beginning relationships get on (and stay on) solid ground, and worked through issues with couples whose relationship doesn't fit into "normal" expectations (I'm comfortable with LGBTQ and kink topics and issues.)
If you are even "just considering" couples or marital counseling I urge you to come in. See me for a free 15 minute consultation. Couples problems are much more easily addressed as early on as possible. Often people wait until there is so much bad feeling that it is very hard to create the space and time to safely try new things -- and to make the normal mistakes that happen when we do try new things. Let me at least suggest to you some good books to read, even if counseling itself isn't your choice.
Over the last 20 years I have developed a model I use with couples which most have found extremely useful in understanding why their partners act as they do, or why they have fights over "silly things", or why old patterns suddenly reappear in new relationships. I'd love to share it with you.
Having a relationship problem is also usually incredibly isolating. Who do you talk to who won't take sides, start telling you what you should do, or focus on blame rather than solutions? Who do you let know how tiring it is to put up a front that things are OK? Who do you have who can listen to the nasty things or the scary thoughts you want to say but don't want someone to take out of context or judge you for thinking? Who do you talk to to sort out what, if anything, is your fault in why things are the way they are - or how important your faults are in the problem, what percentage they actually play in it? Therapy is a safe place for all of that.
You don't have to both come in to therapy and you don't have to come in together, either. There are no rules, only solutions that help things get better.
Finally, some couples' problems are being or have been severely impacted by the addictions of one or both partners. This includes sex addiction, love addiction, gaming addiction, and work addiction. I have expertise and training in these areas, and welcome individuals and relationships who are struggling with these very challenging situations.
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